Comments on: Pets challenge my marriage? http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/ Dog and Cat Health: natural, holistic solutions for healing your pet at home. Tue, 07 Feb 2012 10:30:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: Jody http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-3/#comment-21424 Jody Wed, 26 Nov 2008 18:45:29 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-21424 Lissa, the guy isn't worth it. He is a controller. He left you once and he doesn't share your values. Anybody that would ask you to give up something so precious to you, is trouble. Even if you didn't have animals, he would find something else for you to sacrifice to "prove you love him." Drop him like a hot potato. Lissa, the guy isn’t worth it. He is a controller. He left you once and he doesn’t share your values. Anybody that would ask you to give up something so precious to you, is trouble. Even if you didn’t have animals, he would find something else for you to sacrifice to “prove you love him.” Drop him like a hot potato.

]]> By: Lissa http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-3/#comment-20573 Lissa Fri, 10 Oct 2008 07:09:15 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-20573 My current husband and I are having the same difficulties. We separated over a year ago regarding the 'dog' issue - he stated he never wanted dogs in the house, but loved on them like they were kids when he would come home. I always wanted dogs in the house and had dogs, cats, a guinea pig and fish when he met me and proposed to me. When we moved into a new house together was when the 'no dogs' rule came into effect. I have ALWAYS had animals in the house, to the point of my dog whelping puppies on my bed when I was away (was I mad, NO, I was happy they were all healthy and nothing had gone wrong). I have had a house trained chicken (yes, it is possible). I told him all of this before we were married. He told me of all the animals he had when he was a kid, including a dog in the house.... Fast forward six years - dogs are a MAJOR contention. I will that we had 21 dogs (most of them puppies who were ultimately sold to GREAT family homes). He decided to leave me for another woman who didn't have animals in the house (she was married with another boyfriend, but no animals in the house). They are now apart and he says that he misses me and wants to get back together. Other than the situation with the animals, we get along great... What to do? One of the reasons I got with this man was because my cat (at the time) got along with him and she HATED everybody. I love my husband and love my pets (I am down to one dog, fish and one cat. He doesn't want me to get another puppy to replace one that was stolen while we were living with his in-laws (too long of a story to get into here)... What do I do? I have offered to confine the dogs to one area of the house and get a cleaning person to come in once a month to clean up the mess, but that is NOT an option according to him... How would anyone handle this one? Please let me know? THANKS! My current husband and I are having the same difficulties. We separated over a year ago regarding the ‘dog’ issue – he stated he never wanted dogs in the house, but loved on them like they were kids when he would come home. I always wanted dogs in the house and had dogs, cats, a guinea pig and fish when he met me and proposed to me. When we moved into a new house together was when the ‘no dogs’ rule came into effect.

I have ALWAYS had animals in the house, to the point of my dog whelping puppies on my bed when I was away (was I mad, NO, I was happy they were all healthy and nothing had gone wrong). I have had a house trained chicken (yes, it is possible). I told him all of this before we were married. He told me of all the animals he had when he was a kid, including a dog in the house….

Fast forward six years – dogs are a MAJOR contention. I will that we had 21 dogs (most of them puppies who were ultimately sold to GREAT family homes). He decided to leave me for another woman who didn’t have animals in the house (she was married with another boyfriend, but no animals in the house). They are now apart and he says that he misses me and wants to get back together. Other than the situation with the animals, we get along great… What to do?

One of the reasons I got with this man was because my cat (at the time) got along with him and she HATED everybody.

I love my husband and love my pets (I am down to one dog, fish and one cat. He doesn’t want me to get another puppy to replace one that was stolen while we were living with his in-laws (too long of a story to get into here)… What do I do? I have offered to confine the dogs to one area of the house and get a cleaning person to come in once a month to clean up the mess, but that is NOT an option according to him…

How would anyone handle this one? Please let me know? THANKS!

]]> By: Debbie http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-3/#comment-17691 Debbie Tue, 15 Jul 2008 01:59:50 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17691 I have a friend from Nova Scotia and have heard them joke about the cleanliness of Nova Scotia people. My friend, however, had two cats. She kept her house spotless and would never have DREAMED of closing them off. A person who gets involved with a parent with children had better LOVE those kids before agreeing to marry. Kids take energy, they need attention and the get things dirty. Well, how on EARTH could someone MARRY a vet and want to put limits on the family animal companion? WHAT WAS SHE THINKING when she got married?!?!!? Take your dog with you everywhere, have him sit on your side of the room and expect nothing of her regarding your poor pup. Don't expect anything and have your private, loving relationship. She married a vet.....she is lucky that you don't have a menagerie. Sorry, but I think that she is way way off. If you have kids, have her keep them on HER side! Good luck. Deb p.s. Yes, give wife her own room and keep dog out of it. Get yourself a room where you would like to hang out with your dog. I have a friend from Nova Scotia and have heard them joke about the cleanliness of Nova Scotia people. My friend, however, had two cats. She kept her house spotless and would never have DREAMED of closing them off.

A person who gets involved with a parent with children had better LOVE those kids before agreeing to marry. Kids take energy, they need attention and the get things dirty.

Well, how on EARTH could someone MARRY a vet and want to put limits on the family animal companion? WHAT WAS SHE THINKING when she got married?!?!!?

Take your dog with you everywhere, have him sit on your side of the room and expect nothing of her regarding your poor pup. Don’t expect anything and have your private, loving relationship.

She married a vet…..she is lucky that you don’t have a menagerie. Sorry, but I think that she is way way off.

If you have kids, have her keep them on HER side!

Good luck.

Deb

p.s. Yes, give wife her own room and keep dog out of it. Get yourself a room where you would like to hang out with your dog.

]]> By: Lorraine Turanick http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-3/#comment-17633 Lorraine Turanick Sat, 12 Jul 2008 03:28:40 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17633 I have a bed in every room that I spend time in. It is called "Beasleys Couch". My Mindy loves it as well as my previous dog, a Newfie. Of course, the Newfie's was the largest, and she also loved it. I allow my Mindy free range in the house but use these beds. In the bedroom, it is across from mine where we can see eye to eye. She knows these beds are her's and I do not allow my grandchildren to sit or lay in the beds. As I said, she has free range in the house & even if she doesn't go into her bed when I do, she does always end up in it during the night & when I awake she is always in it. I keep a towel near her food mat, and tell her to wait so I can wipe her beard as she drips water all over when she drinks. Most times she waits & also allows my grandchildren to wipe her mouth/beard. It is something I started when she was a puppy. Good luck...As long as Louis has his own place, he should be happy. Check out K V Vet Supply as their prices are good & I purchased 2 beds from them...The 3rd bed I purchased locally. Lorraine I have a bed in every room that I spend time in. It is called “Beasleys Couch”. My Mindy loves it as well as my previous dog, a Newfie. Of course, the Newfie’s was the largest, and she also loved it. I allow my Mindy free range in the house but use these beds. In the bedroom, it is across from mine where we can see eye to eye. She knows these beds are her’s and I do not allow my grandchildren to sit or lay in the beds. As I said, she has free range in the house & even if she doesn’t go into her bed when I do, she does always end up in it during the night & when I awake she is always in it. I keep a towel near her food mat, and tell her to wait so I can wipe her beard as she drips water all over when she drinks. Most times she waits & also allows my grandchildren to wipe her mouth/beard. It is something I started when she was a puppy. Good luck…As long as Louis has his own place, he should be happy. Check out K V Vet Supply as their prices are good & I purchased 2 beds from them…The 3rd bed I purchased locally. Lorraine

]]> By: SB Hoffma http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-3/#comment-17605 SB Hoffma Fri, 11 Jul 2008 13:18:32 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17605 A pet/family member should never interfere with a relationship....if someone does not accept your pet...send them packing....you won't be happy with them... Non pet people will not be reading this blog...but they will be happier with a non pet person..... A pet/family member should never interfere with a relationship….if someone does not accept your pet…send them packing….you won’t be happy with them… Non pet people will not be reading this blog…but they will be happier with a non pet person…..

]]> By: Susan Gibson http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-2/#comment-17600 Susan Gibson Fri, 11 Jul 2008 12:45:24 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17600 My husband and I have been married for 46+ years, and the one thing that has kept us together is our love of dogs. He has said many times over the years that is the reason he married me. Dogs, like children, need discipline and training, and they really want to please. We now have two queen-size beds in our bedroom. I sleep in one with 2 large dogs; he has the other one to himself. This keeps us both happy. The sweetest sound to me is hearing my two old dogs breathing in the night. I even appreciate my husband's snoring now because I know he is still with me. My husband and I have been married for 46+ years, and the one thing that has kept us together is our love of dogs. He has said many times over the years that is the reason he married me. Dogs, like children, need discipline and training, and they really want to please. We now have two queen-size beds in our bedroom. I sleep in one with 2 large dogs; he has the other one to himself. This keeps us both happy. The sweetest sound to me is hearing my two old dogs breathing in the night. I even appreciate my husband’s snoring now because I know he is still with me.

]]> By: Annette http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-2/#comment-17599 Annette Fri, 11 Jul 2008 12:45:18 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17599 PS. It just dawned on me last night.... my grandparents had a farm....and an outhouse. Going to the bathroom meant going OUTSIDE... If I were you, I'd be careful to not leave any hair in the bathtub or sink or you my find YOURSELF banned from the inside facilities too! LOL.... PS. It just dawned on me last night….
my grandparents had a farm….and an outhouse.
Going to the bathroom meant going OUTSIDE…
If I were you, I’d be careful to not leave any hair in the bathtub or sink or you my find YOURSELF banned from the inside facilities too!
LOL….

]]> By: BEVERLEY STRATIS http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-2/#comment-17596 BEVERLEY STRATIS Fri, 11 Jul 2008 11:54:32 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17596 When my little foster son of 5 was diagnosed with asthma the doctor said "no dogs in the bedreoom"Well I was horrified.My sweet brown eyed girl was allowed anywhere,even on the beds.But obediently I bought her a snazzy new bed,gave her a stunning dinner and thru my tears explained why she was no longer allowed in our bedroom.Apart from a confused look on her face for a few days the change went very well.I was the one with the tears when she lay at the threshold of my door each evening befor bedtime. My son's health changed very quickly and he no longer needed medication for his Asthma. I realised then that for the sake of correctness I simply had to do the right thing.I was not to live out of my emotions to the detriment of others.As long as my dog continues to know she's loved she can cope with changes which make us all happy.Another bonus,I can walk around my bedroom with my socks on and not pick up doggy hairs.Hooray!!! Blessings Beverley and asthma free Mark who is now 8. When my little foster son of 5 was diagnosed with asthma the doctor said “no dogs in the bedreoom”Well I was horrified.My sweet brown eyed girl was allowed anywhere,even on the beds.But obediently I bought her a snazzy new bed,gave her a stunning dinner and thru my tears explained why she was no longer allowed in our bedroom.Apart from a confused look on her face for a few days the change went very well.I was the one with the tears when she lay at the threshold of my door each evening befor bedtime.
My son’s health changed very quickly and he no longer needed medication for his Asthma.
I realised then that for the sake of correctness I simply had to do the right thing.I was not to live out of my emotions to the detriment of others.As long as my dog continues to know she’s loved she can cope with changes which make us all happy.Another bonus,I can walk around my bedroom with my socks on and not pick up doggy hairs.Hooray!!!
Blessings
Beverley and asthma free Mark who is now 8.

]]> By: Veda http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-2/#comment-17593 Veda Fri, 11 Jul 2008 11:29:24 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17593 In our home we sleep with 4 dogs and a cat on the bed, between us. Neither my husband or myself mind as these animals are our "Babies" and we love them more than anything. The other day, I just had to laugh when my husband said, "Whatever happened to our sex life?" Duh!!!! In our home we sleep with 4 dogs and a cat on the bed, between us. Neither my husband or myself mind as these animals are our “Babies” and we love them more than anything. The other day, I just had to laugh when my husband said, “Whatever happened to our sex life?” Duh!!!!

]]> By: Laura http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-2/#comment-17588 Laura Fri, 11 Jul 2008 08:31:51 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17588 Re the dog hair in the house. I know a couple has to work things out, but with the animals always being part of the family, you can't really expect anything less than them being with the family on the furniture. Put covers on the furniture, and take them off when there's company. We love our animals more than we love a pristine home. Home being the operative word. We do wipe them down when they come in from outside. The Sheltie sheds quite a bit, but we rake her outside. The Maltese Grande sleeps with us, so we wipe down his body before he comes to bed. With our love for them, I can't imagine any other way. Happy 10th Anniversary. Our 13th is coming up also. All the best. Re the dog hair in the house. I know a couple has to work things out, but with the animals always being part of the family, you can’t really expect anything less than them being with the family on the furniture. Put covers on the furniture, and take them off when there’s company. We love our animals more than we love a pristine home. Home being the operative word. We do wipe them down when they come in from outside. The Sheltie sheds quite a bit, but we rake her outside. The Maltese Grande sleeps with us, so we wipe down his body before he comes to bed. With our love for them, I can’t imagine any other way. Happy 10th Anniversary. Our 13th is coming up also. All the best.

]]> By: Virginia http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-2/#comment-17587 Virginia Fri, 11 Jul 2008 05:59:10 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17587 Hi Andrew - I wish I could find somebody like "you" who was so fond of other creatuers and didn't mind them messing up the place. You can buy a million sofas and bits of furniture but you cannot manufacture the love that you precious dog has for you. I would take that any day over a article of furniture. If there was a disaster, I'm sure you're wife wouldn't care about the furniture it would be "you" she would be looking for not the furniture. Love is the most important thing not furniture. Hi Andrew – I wish I could find somebody like “you” who was so fond of other creatuers and didn’t mind them messing up the place. You can buy a million sofas and bits of furniture but you cannot manufacture the love that you precious dog has for you. I would take that any day over a article of furniture. If there was a disaster, I’m sure you’re wife wouldn’t care about the furniture it would be “you” she would be looking for not the furniture. Love is the most important thing not furniture.

]]> By: Annette http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-2/#comment-17584 Annette Fri, 11 Jul 2008 03:18:27 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17584 Suggestions: 1) Brush Lewis Daily 2) Give Catherine time...but meanwhile give HER a room where Lewis is OFF limits if the hair bothers her. Even if it's your bedroom..she'll survive and Lewis can sleep with the kids. 3) When we moved to a larger house, our (then) very well behaved 2 little guys started to have "accidents" on the brand new carpets. I know it was all the stress of having to move to a totally new environment. I was young at the time and my "scolding" didn't make a difference. I finally gave UP. They got better as they adjusted, but as they aged, of course there were tons more "accidents" of various natures. The thing is I wanted a nice clean new home to enjoy....instead I got tons of love and joy. When I see those (cleaned, but visible) stains now, long after those two little clowns are gone, it just fills my heart with all the happy memories and I smile and say (looking at the spot), "Oh, HOW they were WORTH it!" 4) Do remember however that you will have ONE wife (hopefully) and LOTS of pets. Don't give up your time with Lewis, but to have a few "off limits" areas for him won't hurt either -like maybe the kitchen (except during meals, and the bedrooms since Lewis has the kids to sleep with. It will give your wife the cleanliness she craves in the areas hopefully most important to her and will show an effort to compromise. 5) I've always had (& loved) animals....about 20 yrs ago my allergist told me I was allergic to them and should get "rid" of them. I promptly told him, 'Well, doc, you're going to have to come up with an alternate solution because I'll give YOU up long before I'd give them up." Of course he was pissed off, but I was honest. What have I done to adjust? Well, I hold my breath when I groom them and immediately wash my hands, face and rinse my eyes with saline after. AND I don't allow them (to linger) near my face....I kiss them,hug them,etc but there will be no sleeping next to my face (from my chest up) where I'm breathing hair, thank you very much. They are all quite happy nestled against my side or legs. 6) Maybe if you take Lewis to work with you he can be a "working dog" helping to calm the other animals, being used to demonstrate techniques on and giving your wife a break?? 7) Your kids NEED Lewis....they need to develop their immunities by being subjected to his hair, etc. As long as he's not out romping on his own and bringing in ticks, etc, that could present lymes disease or something...well, I have a plaque on my kitchen wall that says, DEAR LORD, PLEASE MAKE MY HOUSE CLEAN ENOUGH TO BE HEALTHY & DIRTY ENOUGH TO BE HAPPY! AMEN All the best & congrats on 10 year! Suggestions:
1) Brush Lewis Daily
2) Give Catherine time…but meanwhile give HER a room where Lewis is OFF limits if the hair bothers her. Even if it’s your bedroom..she’ll survive and Lewis can sleep with the kids.
3) When we moved to a larger house, our (then) very well behaved 2 little guys started to have “accidents” on the brand new carpets. I know it was all the stress of having to move to
a totally new environment. I was young at the time and my “scolding” didn’t make a difference.
I finally gave UP. They got better as they adjusted, but as they aged, of course there were tons more “accidents” of various natures.
The thing is I wanted a nice clean new home to enjoy….instead I got tons of love and joy.
When I see those (cleaned, but visible) stains now, long after those two little clowns are gone,
it just fills my heart with all the happy memories and I smile and say (looking at the spot), “Oh, HOW they were WORTH it!”
4) Do remember however that you will have ONE wife (hopefully) and LOTS of pets. Don’t give up your time with Lewis, but to have a few “off limits” areas for him won’t hurt either -like maybe the kitchen (except during meals, and the
bedrooms since Lewis has the kids to sleep with.
It will give your wife the cleanliness she craves in the areas hopefully most important to her and will show an effort to compromise.
5) I’ve always had (& loved) animals….about 20 yrs ago my allergist told me I was allergic to them and should get “rid” of them. I promptly told him, ‘Well, doc, you’re going to have to come up with an alternate solution because I’ll give YOU up long before I’d give them up.” Of course he was pissed off, but I was honest.

What have I done to adjust? Well, I hold my breath when I groom them and immediately wash my hands, face and rinse my eyes with saline after.
AND I don’t allow them (to linger) near my face….I kiss them,hug them,etc but there will
be no sleeping next to my face (from my chest up) where I’m breathing hair, thank you very much.
They are all quite happy nestled against my side or legs.

6) Maybe if you take Lewis to work with you he can be a “working dog” helping to calm the other animals, being used to demonstrate techniques on and giving your wife a break??

7) Your kids NEED Lewis….they need to develop their immunities by being subjected to his hair, etc. As long as he’s not out romping on his own and bringing in ticks, etc, that could present lymes disease or something…well, I have a
plaque on my kitchen wall that says,

DEAR LORD,
PLEASE MAKE MY HOUSE CLEAN ENOUGH TO BE HEALTHY
& DIRTY ENOUGH TO BE HAPPY! AMEN

All the best & congrats on 10 year!

]]> By: jean bolduc http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-2/#comment-17582 jean bolduc Fri, 11 Jul 2008 02:13:19 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17582 Move the wife out! Move the wife out!

]]> By: Darlene Hunt http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-2/#comment-17580 Darlene Hunt Fri, 11 Jul 2008 02:08:13 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17580 I agree with the blanket cover and a cleaning service. This way, you and Lewis will be happy and the service will make your wife happy for the help. Love is unconditional. (It helps to keep it in mind.) With the cleaning service, deliver your wifes' favorite flowers so she knows she is special too! I agree with the blanket cover and a cleaning service. This way, you and Lewis will be happy and the service will make your wife happy for the help. Love is unconditional. (It helps to keep it in mind.) With the cleaning service, deliver your wifes’ favorite flowers so she knows she is special too!

]]> By: Nancy Wolfe http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage/comment-page-2/#comment-17579 Nancy Wolfe Fri, 11 Jul 2008 02:02:58 +0000 http://www.theinternetpetvet.com/pets-challenge-my-marriage#comment-17579 I think it only fair, that you help clean and she allow animals in the house. After all, I am sure she knew you had them before you married her. I used to be a neat freak too. But, I have found since having Cancer, that there is more to life than cleaning. Live life to the fullest. And love those fur kids. I think it only fair, that you help clean and she allow animals in the house. After all, I am sure she knew you had them before you married her.

I used to be a neat freak too. But, I have found since having Cancer, that there is more to life than cleaning. Live life to the fullest. And love those fur kids.

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